What do you do When...

The moment you have waited for 3 years finally arrives? This happened to me this morning.

 I Was out for coffee with friends, when I look across at the Chick -Fila counter and there she stood: The one person that ruined my entire scrap booking life.

It is a long and sorted story, basically I confided in "DC", about a private issue with our scrap book leader aka “Mama Chick”    She gave me the advice that If I was having a problem to go talk to Mama Chick about it. " You guys are such good friends..it will be okay"  So I took DC's advice...boy was I wrong.

 Little did I know that DH had called Mama Chick, embellished it all and made it something it wasn't.

 

 After that I was considered “catty” and shunned from their inner circle. My feelings were hurt. I thought these women my friends…  I know had they been real friends, they would have never treated me  that way, and I would have been asked my side of the situation. I would have been given an opportunity to defend myself.

  “Mama Chick”  also blocked me on her Facebook, deleted me from the group’s yahoo page, and turned her entire family against Senior and me. They live across the street, every day is a constant reminder. Once we were friends, any time she needed something I was there to help out. All that gone now.
I have tried to make amends, I have tried to talk to her.. She won't have any of it. She doesn't even  acknowledge my or my families existence.

So, for the past 3 years, all I ever hoped for was this precise moment: To confront the gossiper-DC. To let her have a piece of my mind. And here it was delivered to me on a silver platter.

I got up, to get a coffee refill, I thought of what to do. My hands were shaking. I felt weak in the knees. My cheeks flushed. I sat my coffee on our table and walked to the restroom, Her back was to me. As I past, DC 's husband looked up and whispered.

I stood in front of the bathroom mirror, refreshed my make up—No way in Hell was she going to report back that I looked crappy. I looked at myself, and grabbed the edge of the sink, and prayed to God for guidance.-What should I do in this situation Lord?  Her gossiping hurt deep. Those women won’t talk to me anymore, much less even look at me, all because of her evil tongue.  I confided in her, trusted her with a private matter and she betrayed my trust.

I have waited so long for this moment, I had it all thought out in my head what I would do, or so I thought.....

Then the voice said “Hold your head up, walk past, without acknowledging her, you are the better person”

 That was it?   I don’t get to confront her?  "I don't get to done my booty kicking shoes and let her have it" ?
Then I said “okay God, you know what you are doing”.   

And that is just what I did.  I walked slowly past, my head was held high. I did not look to the right or the left, just straight ahead. 

And for that, I  know and understand that I was the bigger person. She was expecting me to be "catty" and make a scene.  But, I proved her and the rest of the witches in my former group wrong. I gave her nothing more to gossip about—no reports on how “catty” I am.  If anything it would be how fabulous I looked. 

 

  I was so extremely proud of me.

And with that I smiled a confident smile and went back to the table with my real friends.

My friend “K” asked if I was okay. Her little 2 year old daughter climbed in my lap, and hugged me.

“Yep, never better” I said.

 -JUGM