Went down Tuesday, surprised my parents who had no idea I was coming. Caught grief from Mom because I made a quick trip down and did not bring the boys.
We all went to moms Dr. appointment Wednesday. Her weight is down some more.
Doctor still will not let her drive because of the medication she is on. So she decided to take herself off everything. Still did not work, Doctor said NO to driving. Mom argued and said she will never go back to see him and that indeed she will drive. Then we talked to him about her passing out, and being constantly dizzy. She has had a series of mini strokes, and Dr. explained that is why he did not want her out driving. She said my sister and I were lying, and out to make her look bad.
Doctor literally threw up his hands in disgust. He told her she was the most stubborn and hard headed patient he has ever had. And that she could basically do whatever. I think he is done with her, and just letting time takes its toll on her disease.
My dad still just sits there.. does not saying anything. I think she has worn him down as well.
After the appointment I got back on the road for the 5.5 hour drive. I know my mother is not well, because my mother of old would have begged me to stay and go shopping or something. My mom these days, asks me to leave -there are no tears, no long goodbyes like she would years ago. All she wants to do is get back to her house, and stay in her bed with the TV remote.
The drive seemed to take forever..but I made it. I pulled up in our driveway and was greeted by all my boys. They were waiting outside for me. I missed the daylights out of them. While I know I needed to go see my parents, I also hated being away from them. I was thrilled to be home.
Tomorrow is Halloween, and now I must get started on making the home made costumes. One is being a Ghost bound by chains. The other wants to be a zombie again. I said you were a zombie last year. But, he said I have not been a zombie in SC .
I love doing our own costumes, it is always a lot of fun to be creative and see what scary things we can come up with. Since we are no longer in a neighborhood for organized Trick or Treating, we are taking the kids to an area mall.
The weather here is turning cold, Rain tomorrow night then down in to the 30s. even snow over in the mountains. BRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!
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Thursday, October 30, 2014
Saturday, August 30, 2014
A morning with my folks
We drove down to Florida to visit my folks.. Mom continues to go downhill, and she keeps losing weight. Her memory medicine is helping and she was more alert then in the past, but her agression has gotten worse. Anything you want to do for them she opposes, and after an hour was hinting for us to leave. I have accepted that this is really not my mom, its this horrible disease.
My father stays by her side and takes care of everything. 55+ years together is amazing, the love is what makes you weepy eyed. My sister showed up and showed me a book she got called " The 36 Hour Day" Its about coping with Alzheimer's/Dementia.
My dad was trying to mow the yard but being 80 , the Florida heat was getting to him. Senior had dropped us off so I decided to finish up the yard for Dad. Black shirt, black shorts, dressy flip flops...I know I am a good kid.! He has one of those electric mowers so NW was behind me keeping the extension cord out of my way. I really don't like those things...
Mom's flowers were in bloom, and the butterflies were playing. ..
It was a nice visit.
My father stays by her side and takes care of everything. 55+ years together is amazing, the love is what makes you weepy eyed. My sister showed up and showed me a book she got called " The 36 Hour Day" Its about coping with Alzheimer's/Dementia.
My dad was trying to mow the yard but being 80 , the Florida heat was getting to him. Senior had dropped us off so I decided to finish up the yard for Dad. Black shirt, black shorts, dressy flip flops...I know I am a good kid.! He has one of those electric mowers so NW was behind me keeping the extension cord out of my way. I really don't like those things...
Mom's flowers were in bloom, and the butterflies were playing. ..
It was a nice visit.
Wednesday, July 2, 2014
Still Here...
Hello everyone. My buddy Harry sent me a comment via one of my other posts, and I guess it has been a bit since I last posted. Harry to answer your question, yes we are still here.. Thank you so much for your concern.
Things have just been busy: kids out school, going back and forth to our Carolina property..and my mother. She was officially diagnosed with Dementia/Alzheimers. And the past month has not been easy. My mother is so fixated on all her OTC vitamins, laxatives and etc. The doctor asked us to clean everything out and destroy it. We tried, but did not realize the scope of her fixation, or the levels she would go through to protect them. She has stuff hidden quite well throughout their house. Even stashing bottles in with my dads diabetes medication. We also found a hoard of pain killers she had in the very back of her kitchen cabinets, the expiration dates were several years ago. We thought that maybe she forgot there were there, but no. That is not the case, she became quite agitated when we tried to destroy them, and openly acknowledged that she still takes them..
She will then regress backwards in her mind to almost a childlike demeanor, beginning us not to take them away or judge her.
It is heart breaking for me to see my mom like this. One minute she is engaged in a conversation with you, and the next she has no recollection of every thing that was just said. She refers to the men in her life as "mister" because she can not remember their names.
So with all this going on the last thing on my mind has been writing up a post. But, I will say that maybe I need to do this, writing about it, and talking about it is therapy. It helps ease my heart ache because I know I have all you good folks out there who are concerned and care.
-JUGM
Things have just been busy: kids out school, going back and forth to our Carolina property..and my mother. She was officially diagnosed with Dementia/Alzheimers. And the past month has not been easy. My mother is so fixated on all her OTC vitamins, laxatives and etc. The doctor asked us to clean everything out and destroy it. We tried, but did not realize the scope of her fixation, or the levels she would go through to protect them. She has stuff hidden quite well throughout their house. Even stashing bottles in with my dads diabetes medication. We also found a hoard of pain killers she had in the very back of her kitchen cabinets, the expiration dates were several years ago. We thought that maybe she forgot there were there, but no. That is not the case, she became quite agitated when we tried to destroy them, and openly acknowledged that she still takes them..
She will then regress backwards in her mind to almost a childlike demeanor, beginning us not to take them away or judge her.
It is heart breaking for me to see my mom like this. One minute she is engaged in a conversation with you, and the next she has no recollection of every thing that was just said. She refers to the men in her life as "mister" because she can not remember their names.
So with all this going on the last thing on my mind has been writing up a post. But, I will say that maybe I need to do this, writing about it, and talking about it is therapy. It helps ease my heart ache because I know I have all you good folks out there who are concerned and care.
-JUGM
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