as everyone knows Tuesday was our oldest sons (NWs) birthday. My sister thought it would be a great idea to give him a 30.00 gift card so he could go shopping on his own and pick out what he wants.
The thought behind the idea was wonderful...until..he told his little brother (ND) " I will give you 10.00 from the card and you can get something too"...
I thought how sweet and what a wonderful brother. "But" I said "If ND gets a card for his birthday he should do the same in return". They agreed.
Thus begins our odyssey. We are in the toy section and Me as always is short on time.."lets decide on something boys" ND picked out a new mini transformer."Sentinel Prime" it was 9.97. it was then that NW looked over and saw a pirate ship for the full 30.00. He just HAD to have it.. I explained that he can't promise his brother something then not deliver..it wasn't fair to his little brother. And with that explanation, I am now offically a mean mother. : )
NW turned to his little brother and told him to put back Sentinel Prime.. At that precise moment all heck broke lose. ND told NW that he did not love him anymore and he is completely unfair...
With ND in tears, NW tried telling him that NDs birthday is in a month and that he could get the toy then, and that is was his money and he wanted the pirate ship. The huffing and puffing continued then I intervened..I told them to put all toys back that NO ONE would get anything that day..
Was I right to do that? I feel like I should have allowed ND the small toy since his brother had just been so unfair to him. But, his behavior in the store told me not to, he was being just as ugly has his brother.
We got home, and I sat both boys down and told them that while the gift card was a present to NW, he should not have told his brother he would share it if he did not intend on doing so. I have told them to work it out and reach a compromise....here we are 3 days later and are in a stalemate. No agreement has been reached. I have played the median in the disagreement and given them several options..but no one has bent. I feel like one is the House of Representatives and the other is the Senate.... of course I know I could be the President in the situation and not gain congressional approval and buy school clothes with the card.
You did the right thing.
ReplyDeletebuy school clothes! :) you're a great mom!
ReplyDeleteTY Kellie...
Deletei'm Canadian so i can't vote in this November's election - but if i could - i'd be voting JUGM all the way! you did awesome, hon...they both need to learn from this! and you are teaching them!
ReplyDeletejeesh - i feel mighty proud being a friend to the Prez - bahahahahah!
your friend,
kymber
You did good Momma. Go buy something nice for the VA. That ought to get the message across.
ReplyDeleteI told them if they had not reached a compromise we were buying new toys and donating them to a childrens hopsital..
DeleteYou could make the older son wait until the younger gets a card for his birthday. You did mention the reciprocation of favors. Just make them both wait. It will be a good lesson for both. You did the right thing by leaving without any toys after their behavior. Most mothers would have forked over the extra $10. By then, both toys may be on sale or they will have lost the desire for the toys they chose.
ReplyDeleteI know most mothers would have, and from the looks I was getting made me feel like I was a horrible mom for not giving in.
DeleteWe made them wait and they worked it out... and as you predicted they lost interest in those particular toys...
I feel your pain. I have six daughters...
ReplyDeleteoh boy!!! I can only imagine... : )
DeleteOne of the most frequent things I heard growing-up from my mom, vis-a-vis toys, bicycles, and everything was, "It's just a phase you're going through." So often true...even now with guns!!
ReplyDeleteShe is right, its all a phase, not long ago they were both in to "Thomas the Tank" etc... now it has gone to Legos, and Transformers.. With Senior and I its guns as well.. : )
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